He thinks I’m cheating on him

My boyfriend complains and sometimes gets upset that my
vagina is looser than other times. He thinks I’m cheating, but
I’m not. I lost my virginity to him when I was 19 and we are
planning to get married when I graduate from the University.
Now, I’m 22 and we are still an item and this problem is
surfacing. What’s going on?
Ibukun, Ibadan
Dear Ibukun,
A
woman’s vagina is less elastic when it is not sexually
aroused. It becomes more elastic or “looser” when the
woman is sexually excited. The more excited, the looser.
A woman may feel “tighter” to a man when she is less
aroused, less comfortable, and having less pleasure than her
partner.
Hormonal shifts during a woman’s menstrual cycle affect
vaginal secretions and may affect vaginal elasticity. She may
feel “looser” on certain days of her cycle than on
others. Certain drugs, such as antihistamines or marijuana,
may make the walls of the vagina feel dry so they seem
“tighter.”
A woman’s vagina may feel tighter or looser in different
positions for intercourse. Some men tend to be anxious
about their sexual performance. Some have an exaggerated
sense of jealousy. It’s always best to discuss such problems
with a partner or with a professional. But some men may put
the blame on their partners because they are unable to
recognize their own insecurities.